Go With The Flow

Have you ever had one of THOSE days? You know - the arsenic day when everything goes wrong? No plan can be realised, no task completed and you end up feeling like a wrung out rag?

I think it is probably more of the norm at this busy time of the year, rather than the exception.

I recently had a whole weekend like that - major time conflicts as I juggled supporting relatives through bereavement, a dear friend's daughter's car accident, family responsibilities, Christmas cheer, entertaining and work. My much anticipated and eagerly awaited dinner party for close friends went from being for a group of 9 on Friday to a nice small gathering with 3 guests three hours ahead of the starting time.

I had plans (and I am an EXPERT planner - have been for years). I imagined a time frame for each item, how it was all going to happen, what obstacles could arise, and I had my wonderful strategies to deal with each potential problem.

Nothing went according to plan, and you know what? It all happened anyway - fairly calmly and smoothly, just not in the way I anticipated.

A number of my friends commented on my ability to stay calm when it is so easy to get lost in the chaos.

I realised that my ability to "go with the flow" was because I have learned not to be completely or totally attached to the outcome of any one thing. I don't really mind how anything occurs as long as the result is to my satisfaction. I know I cannot control everyone and everything - in fact, I'm not so sure that I can control myself 100%. But that's the fun of being human.

So while we are well into the "silly season" and madness reigns during December and January think about what is truly important to you. Do you want to spend time frazzled and tired or having time out for smiles and cheer?

If you want to be able to go with the flow, let go of your expected ideas. Don't hold onto a specific outcome, but focus on the big picture.

Think of the result you want, what is acceptable for you and what moral and ethical boundaries exist for you, and then just "go with the flow."

To all my readers - have a wonderful, safe, healthy and happy Festive Season and a fantastic 2008. Enjoy your moments as they arise they truly are gifts....